The Freak Out

I almost wanted to laugh...out loud...and in their face... but luckily, that handy dandy sympathetic part of me doesn't allow it. But I could feel the rumble vibrating my sides, ready to resonate to the the surface. So over the past couple of days, relationships have been kicking alot of a@$, my friends and families in particular because the same scenerio keeps popping up in our conversations, some of which I witnessed myself. I almost forgot how dramatic and intense relationships can be with people and the reason I forgot is because I'm singlely drama-free. For once, I'm thankful for that!
Relationships, like most things, have their highs and lows and their joys and pains. The good and the bad are unavoidable in relationships and you have to grow to accept that you can't have one without the other-you gotta take it all in stride. Ok, get it, got it, good. However, some stuff you gotta let go, its just too deep. There is a point in relationships that you need to re-evaluate and say, is this really worth the trouble, effort, time, and exhaustion.
Most importantly is this worth THE FREAK OUT!
In a relationship at some point or another, someone is going to commit a questionable act. So as your suspician arises, your trying to determine if their cheating, sneaking behind your back, or sending out mysterious messages. Sure enough, you jump to conclusions way too fast and already the ugliest and meanest part of you presents itself. It's almost as if we put a ban on logic and reason, denying access to the place we're about to go. There's finally an excuse to free the rage that has been built up inside. Our adaptation of The Crazies is reborn. First it begins by ruling out any possibilities of innocence and getting straight to the accusations. All that negativity is fuel to keep us running, to keep the blood boiling. Your legs function like engines pacing back and forth all the while murmering and conjuring a bowl spiteful words that can be thrown on them when it's hot enough to make them burn. Before we know it, we have THE FREAK OUT!
I can't even lie, I have taken part in THE FREAK OUT myself and I unshamedly laughed at myself for acting like a fool. I thought my boyfriend was talking to someone else so I began snooping through his phone, saw something questionable, threw the phone at him and ran off. Obviously, I could have acted like a grown person, sat down and discussed the issue but instead I took the freak out or easy way out.
Overreacting is not necessary at the end of the day and usually it was never as bad as you thought it was. I feel like we're all on syndicated tv, I see the same situations playing out over and over again with the same outcome.
My words of advice:
Just wait and confront the person. Discuss the issue like two mature individuals and reach a conclusion through peace. The next thing I'm about to say is so crucial I gotta put it in all caps so please embrace what i'm about to say....IF YOU EVER FEEL THAT YOUR OTHER HALF IS CHEATING, JUST SIMPLY ASK, DO YOU WANT TO BE WITH ME OR NOT. HOW COULD ANYONE WANT TO STAY WITH SOMEONE, KNOWING THEY WANTED TO BE WITH SOMEONE ELSE. WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE BY DEFAULT. LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO LET GO!